Tom Keefe

Spirited Communication

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I don’t worship the creation

I’m not saying that I won’t try to be outside when the eclipse is nearing totality. It will be fun to experience. I’m saying that the movement of the Earth, moon and sun that will result in this alignment was put into motion by a God who deserves the glory and honor.

I would love to know that every thrill-seeking person who will don protective eyewear and gaze into the eclipse would reflect on the majesty of the Creator. But many don’t think–or believe–that God exists or cares about them.

If that is you, I respect your feelings and beliefs. I have to say that I can’t comprehend how someone can look at this world, this universe, and see the logic in the theory that it began out of nothing, evolved into its current state by random chance, and operates unguided with a precision and logic that allows us to accurately predict events like the eclipse. How could all of that be true without a Creator putting them into place?

Today, like every day, I will worship the Creator, not the creation.

Getting Untangled

This week I brought in my Christmas decorations from outside my home and the power cords and timers that I used to light them at the appropriate time. I only had a short time to do that and so I piled the decorations, cords and timers on a workbench in my garage.

Today I finished packing the decorations and cords. When I looked at one 100-ft. power cord, I saw it was a tangled mess.

The cord was still functional; if I plugged it in it would provide power to whatever I plugged into the other end. But because it was tangled, it was more difficult to use. It couldn’t stretch to the distance that it was made to reach.

Isn’t that like us when we get tangled up in emotional and spiritual dilemmas? We can’t stretch ourselves to think and do some things that we are made to tackle.

Just like I had to work to untangle the power cord, we sometimes have to untangle our hurts, habits and hangups with the help of friends, family or professionals.

I felt so much better when the power cord was neatly wrapped around the holder. If you’re feeling tangled up today, use your faith, friends and family to begin loosening whatever is entangling you.

An uncluttered home, mind and soul is so freeing!

New Day, New Year

This is the view that I captured this morning from my daughter’s kitchen window in Tucson, AZ. What a magnificent image that captures the awe and excitement of the new year.

Regardless of whether or not you set resolutions for 2024, each day will bring opportunities and challenges, beauty and sorrow, activity and rest.

I’ve recently had a spiritual boost by joining a Christian church that brings a powerful worship experience and relevant sermons soaked in biblical truth. My 2024 will include intentional effort to walk closer with my Lord and to appreciate His many blessings, including sunrises and sunsets.

Happy New Day and New Year!

A ‘Fellowship of Equals’

Since I’m in a few Twelve Step Programs, I benefit from applying wisdom and good thoughts learned in one of them to the other programs I work.

Case in point: When reading a daily Al-Anon devotion today, I saw the phrase “fellowship of equals.” The phrase was used to state that in Al-Anon, all members are equal. We don’t have a right to consider someone “less than” or ourselves superior to anyone else.

I read a similar thought years ago in the Big Book of A.A., in the chapter, “There is a Solution.” It states we are a people “who normally would not mix” but who are like the passengers of a great liner the moment after rescue from shipwreck.”

I continue to marvel at the range of people I meet in recovery meetings and service work. All national origins, religious beliefs (including atheists and agnostics), education and personal wealth. None of that matters in terms of recovery in each program, however the various perspectives and experiences enrich the interactions and knowledge I gain from meetings and conversations.

I never could have imagined how much I would gain in addition to my sobriety and serenity from walking amongst this “fellowship of equals”!

We are a “fellowship of equals” (image from Bigstock Photos)

Having Had a Spiritual Awakening as the Result of…

Every day we have an opportunity to grow spiritually. “Spiritual awakenings” are far less common, and are often memorable for their impact. I’ve had two spiritual awakenings: One in Alcoholics Anonymous and one as a Christian.

The First Awakening

Even though I was raised Catholic, by my late teens, I had walked away from organized religion and ran toward a life of alcohol, drugs, occasional sex and a bachelor’s degree from a state university.

The only contacts I had with religion while in college were from an evangelical neighbor in my dorm and a screaming lunatic named Jed Smock, who spewed hell and brimstone a couple of times each year on visits to the university.

Neither contributed to a spiritual awakening in me.

Years later when I admitted I was powerless over alcohol and my life had become unmanageable, I experienced a spiritual awakening in which I became acutely aware of the presence of my Higher Power, whom I call God. That awakening led to me actively communicating through prayer, meditation and everyday conversations with God.

My trust in God increased as I saw people receiving guidance, encouragement and purpose from their Higher Powers. If God did it for them, he could and would do that for me, I reasoned.

In the mid to late 1990s, my wife and I attended church in our hometown. That church had a retreat ministry which we attended. At the second retreat I attended, my Catholic background knowledge of Jesus was refined and became real to me. I knew that day that Jesus did indeed rise from the dead and his life was the way I could receive forgiveness for my sins.

That was my second spiritual awakening. Both are important to me, and my experience is my own—every A.A. member will find their own path to a spiritual awakening. A.A. has no opinion on outside issues and does not affiliate with any sect, denomination, religion or belief.

While my experience is my own, I do hope that everyone reading this is open to examining the concept of a spiritual awakening. Mine opened my eyes and heart. I wish you a similar experience.

Our Tool Kit of Spiritual Principles

Coin from Alcoholics Anonymous that includes AA spiritual principles

This is the back of a coin that I received from the Chicago Office of Alcoholics Anonymous.

The face of the coin features the AA triangle logo with the words “Recovery,” “Unity” and “Service” along each side of the triangle. The phrase “Practice these principles in all our affairs” extends along the top and bottom of the coin’s face.

The meat of the coin is the list of spiritual principles mentioned in A.A.’s main text, “Alcoholics Anonymous”:

  • Acceptance
  • Surrender
  • Faith
  • Open-Mindedness
  • Honesty
  • Willingness
  • Moral Inventory
  • Amends
  • Humility
  • Persistence
  • Spiritual Growth
  • Service

These principles, which we are called to practice in every aspect of our life, are part of the “kit of spiritual tools” that we share with newcomers as we describe how working the 12 Steps has led to us staying sober and recovering from the physical, emotional and spiritual impact of alcoholism.

We use them as measuring sticks to see our spiritual progress. They also convict me when my words and actions fall short. Thankfully, we have been told that “no one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles.”

Have you looked at this list of spiritual principles lately? See any that you need to work on today?

Awakening to the Spiritual

The lead in a recent meeting I attended was on the Twelfth Step:

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

That day my mind zeroed in on the two words “spiritual awakening.” I flipped them and thought about my “awakening to the spiritual.”

We live in a physical world of space and time, but as one member commented after the lead, we are spiritual beings living for a finite time in this world. Your beliefs about spirituality and a Higher Power can be way different than mine. That’s one of the beautiful reasons why the program works for so many people.

In a Big Book meeting this morning, I read page 93 that encourages us to stress the spiritual aspect of the program freely with a newcomer. If the newcomer is agnostic or atheist, I can assure them that they don’t have to agree with my conception of a Higher Power (which I choose to call God). The newcomer can use whatever concept of a Higher Power makes sense to them as long as they are willing to believe that the Higher Power is greater than themselves and that they can live by spiritual principles.

Over time in my early sobriety, my understanding and acceptance of the spiritual side of the program grew. I saw changes in me and others around me as we worked the steps and each other. So much of what I experienced and witnessed seemed to come from something beyond what I or others could do on our own. I believed I was seeing the Higher Power work in my life and in others.

My awakening to the spiritual occurred as I:

  • (Step 2) Came to believe that a Power greater than myself could restore me to sanity.
  • (Step 3) Made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understood Him.
  • (Step 5) Admitted to God, to myself, and to another human being the exact nature of my wrongs.
  • (Step 6) Was entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  • (Step 7) Humbly asked Him to remove my shortcomings.
  • (Step 11) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve my conscious contact with God as I understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for me and the power to carry that out.
  • And as already mentioned, (Step 12) Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, I try to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all my affairs.

Today, I am in contact with God often during the day. I continue to struggle to accept and follow his will in all things. The problems and pain I experience in life often can be seen as the direct result of trying to impose my will over what God seems to want for me. The Big Book reading today drove home why that could be true:

“To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructure action.” Alcoholics Anonymous Fourth Edition, page 93, (C) 2001

My Favorite Christmas Gift

The radio host today asked listeners to share their favorite Christmas gift. I didn’t call in but I knew what I would say.

When I was in my late teens, my sister, Annette, sewed each of her brothers and our parents the same gift: A cloth ornament shaped like a candy cane. At the time, I didn’t think much of the ornament, except to acknowledge the time and effort Annette put into cutting the fabric, adding a soft filling and sewing each closed. When I left for college, I packed the ornament with other personal items that I couldn’t take with me and forgot about it.

A few years later, Annette, who was two years older than me, got married and they had a son. When we gathered at our parents’ home to celebrate Christmas, I saw that my mom had included her cloth candy cane ornament on the Christmas tree. That reminded me about my ornament, which was still packed away because I didn’t decorate a Christmas tree at my apartment.

One day my sister called me. Her voice breaking, Annette told me that she had been diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 24. It was a shock, of course, and I moved back into with my parents to be able to help as Annette fought the cancer with chemotherapy and radiation. After 1-1/2 to 2 years, the cancer spread to my sister’s lungs and brain, causing her death that June.

In December, although we still mourned the loss of Annette, my parents and I put up the Christmas tree. When mom added the candy cane ornament, I ran to where I had stored mine. I placed it on the tree and wished that I could tell Annette how much her thoughtfulness meant to me.

This week, 40 years after my sister’s death, my wife and I put up our Christmas tree. Kim knows I have a tradition now, so she patiently waited until I found the ornament that would be placed first on our tree: a weathered fabric candy cane ornament. Over the years, I’ve opened many presents that were placed under our tree. But my favorite gift has always hung above the gaily wrapped presents below. A simple present made with love by the sister who will always remain in my heart.

Candy Cane fabric ornament made by Annette Keefe

Separating Religion from Spirituality

Organized religions and their members infuse spirituality into their worship practices and traditions. Twelve Step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) differentiate themselves from organized religious movements by considering themselves purely “spiritual” programs. What is the difference?

The A.A. pamphlet, “Many Paths to Spirituality,” states “With sharing that reflects the boundless range of belief (and non-belief) among A.A. members — including Buddhism, Islam, Native American faith traditions, and atheism and agnosticism — this pamphlet shows how Alcoholics Anonymous is a spiritual organization, rather than a religious one.”

How do Twelve Step programs and their members separate spirituality and religion while incorporating the former into their programs? By creating an environment where no one viewpoint is held above others and everyone has the freedom to decide how to incorporate spirituality into their individual programs.

My journey from religion to spirituality

My parents were Catholic and raised me in that religion. I respect their beliefs but while I do consider Jesus Christ to be my lord and saviour, many of the traditions and beliefs of that religion differ from what ring true to me. I also am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict whose life was saved by A.A. a few years before my soul was saved as a member of the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America (ELCA).

Because I was well acquainted with the concept of God growing up, I easily accepted the need for a “Higher Power” (God as I understand him) like the A.A. program suggests. Unlike the Christian religion, in which everyone believes in one triune God (Father, Son and Holy Spirit), A.A. members are free to choose their own conception of a Higher Power.

I’ve known atheists and agnostics who chose their A.A. group, nature, even a door knob as a “Higher Power.” In that way, they put their belief in something outside of themselves—and each had a different concept.

My journey to spirituality began when I stopped believing that my efforts impacted my relationship with my Higher Power. Rather than trying to be “good” to be accepted, I realized that God already loves me completely. So I find ways to connect with God to increase our connection like I do with family, friends and coworkers.

Spirituality in A.A. is much more complex than connecting with a Higher Power. We see the way that the program developed and spread as being influenced by some force greater than the sum of the people who helped to launch and maintain it.

I am the same spiritual person whether I am in a Christian worship service or in an A.A. meeting. I’ve been able to incorporate both into my life, while keeping the line well defined between the practice of religion and the working of the A.A. program.

Do you see a difference between religion and spiritual programs like A.A.?

My Least Favorite Day of the Year

April Fool’s Day is marked by immature and some mean-spirited attempts to prank others. I hate it!

April Fools
Illustration Celebrating April Fools’ Day
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